Have you ever wondered how, despite loving your partner, you sometimes get totally confused by their actions? Do they wind you up and no amount of explanation can help you get your head round why they do certain things?

Well, if you want to unravel the mysteries of the opposite sex, and understand why they do what they do, this is the book for you!

Written in layman’s words and in a funny style, Alan and Barbara Pease show how, despite all attempts to bring males and females together, we are genetically different … and don’t bother trying to change it!

The basic theme of the book is that our behaviour as men and women was set during our ‘caveman’ years and this has dictated our way of life even today.

The man was the hunter. He would go out all day and hunt to provide for his family. The women would stay behind, bring up the family, bond with other women and defend the nest. This is how we are and it is only in the last generation that we have tried to undo thousands of years of habits.

The Pease’s explain how, because of man’s need to focus in on his prey, he has vision which is very narrow. As a result, he will go to the fridge and shout out that he cannot see the butter! The woman, because she had to watch out for predators in the cave, has wider peripheral vision and will spot the butter immediately, muttering that her husband must be blind!

Have you noticed how a man can only do one task at a time? What does he do if the phone rings? He turns off the TV. Men cannot cope with such distractions. This explains part of the book title, why men don’t listen. If they are reading the paper, everything else is blocked off so he can concentrate on the task in hand.

Women on the other hand can talk on the phone, have the TV on and do the housework, all at the same time! The same when speaking to a group of friends; women can speak all at once, usually on unrelated subjects and understand everything. To men this is very confusing!

Whilst on talking - how come men, when they come home at night, just clam up? The wife wants to talk but he just wants to sit down and stare into space or the fire (back to our cavemen days again). The book explains that men developed as lunch-chasers and not communicators. Their brains are not as well developed for speech as women’s are. Whilst out hunting they were programmed to remain silent in case of frightening off the prey. They only communicated with other hunters in the pack by body language. This explains why a man is quite happy to sit and think - just leave him, he’s OK!

One source of irritation to men is a woman’s inability to read a map! A woman’s natural reaction if reading a map is to turn it upside down, so it’s facing the direction she is going. Because of their hunting skills in judging the speed and distance of their prey, men have developed better spatial skills, so he can rotate the map in head.

Women need to remember when they scream at their partner about the risks he is taking in the car, that his spatial skills are better than hers. This means he can make decisions which may look dangerous to her. As the Pease’s say, “When men stop asking women to navigate, everyone’s lives will be happier, and when women stop criticising men’s driving abilities, there will be fewer arguments.”

The book is a fascinating read. There are many examples of human behaviour which will have you smiling as you relate to what’s going on in your life!

Rob Warlow

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